I’ve been stuck in a rut – a rather big rut and I had lost my Mojo. Know the feeling?
I recently became a Master Practitioner and was expecting to feel super charged and totally motivated. But for some reason I wasn’t. I felt frustrated.
Thankfully, my coach explained that this experience is not uncommon. He clarified that it’s perfectly OK not to have to push forward full steam-ahead every day. Sometimes we just need to take stock. It is just as important to enjoy what’s going on around you right now and to accept that the right things will come to you in their own time. We just need to remain open and receptive to what comes our way.
So I took him at his word and opted to take my foot off the pedal for a while and just laugh at my frustrations and to try to relax a little.
On this recent phone call I discussed all my doubts with him and explained how very disconcerting these feelings can be. We acknowledged that I have already done the hard bit. I have spent a huge amount of time and effort studying and have recently completed all the necessary qualifications. By becoming a Master Coach of NLP and a Master Practitioner NLP, Timeline Therapy and Hypnosis, I am able to assist others in their own quest for better results. My coach said to me “now is the time.”
Now is the time to : Ask – Believe – Receive.
Now is the time to : Let go of the HALT and have fun.
How do I let go of the HALT ( whatever that is ) and progress to the next step?
It’s all about injecting a bit of fun back into our lives.
I agreed to follow his advice and decided that now is the time to reap the rewards and to have a bit of fun in the process. After all, this is why I wanted to become a Master Practitioner of NLP in the first place. I love it.
Marie Forleo suggests in her Q&A Tuesday slot, that these feelings are a sign that we are reaching our ‘perceived’ upper limit. She refers to it as the Self-Sabotage Stage; explaining that, for whatever reason, we put the brakes on. I can so relate to this. I felt like I was walking through molasses. I so desperately wanted to accomplish stuff, to keep moving forward and achieve all that I know I am capable of achieving. But something was stopping me. I needed to get out of my own way.
Somehow, I had to forget the self-sabotage, to release the self-imposed pressures and to start to enjoy myself again.
How refreshing. When I decided to have fun, I started to get my mojo back. I began to feel more motivated – more positive.
What I have learned however, is that fun is not automatic. Fun has to be generated, and that it was up to me to do just that.
My 5 steps into ‘generating’ fun.
I had lost sight of why I wanted to become a coach in the first place. Coaching is something that I love doing. I enjoy helping people. But – I was being pulled down by the goals and the plans that I had been making. I was constantly seeking to be productive – to achieve the results that I needed. My business was beginning to sap the energy out of me – because it was becoming a chore.
Redress the balance : It is so important to find out what you truly enjoy doing – what nourishes you. Perhaps it’s a walk on the beach or learning something new. It is different for each and every one of us. Once you have ascertained what it is – you must devote time to doing it.
I love reading; but I never seem to have time to read everything that I have ear-marked. So to facilitate this I have enrolled in a photo reading course – which claims that I can digest more literature in a fraction of the time. I shall keep you posted.
Make meaningful Connections : I love connecting with people. Above all, I need to spend quality time with my friends and family. This is something that I had neglected to do of late as I had my nose in my studies. I was beginning to pay the price for this. As a result, I am now building time into my calendar again to spend time with my nearest and dearest. I am also concentrating in building new associations and friendships and I am pleased to say I am already reaping the benefits. You may or may not believe in synchronicity – I do. In the last fortnight I have met a number of people whom I am sure I have met for a particular reason. It’s exciting stuff.
On the back of this, I have decided to attend a Jack Canfield workshop in London next month. I am excited beyond belief – who knows where this will take me?
Recognise Possibilities : Rather than measuring my progress and ensuring that I meet all the milestones I have set, I am realising the importance of flexibility. We don’t always meet our goals exactly as planned. So long as we can adapt to change, new possibilities can open up – and more often than not, the alternative is a whole lot better.
Build Fun into your day : I understand that for myself and my business, it is important to generate a bit of fun regularly even on a daily basis. I try to include something light-hearted into my to-do-list. I build this time into my day and I am already enjoying how more relaxed I am feeling.
Be Present : Fun and happiness are often about leaving your past behind you, by making sure you are living in the moment. Ensuring that the past no longer has to hold you back, allows you to move on with a lighter heart and mind. If we are focusing on the past or are too wrapped up in achieving the goals of the future – we forget to enjoy the present. That’s just what I was doing.
So if you are feeling stuck – give me a call – I’ve been there – I can help.
Much Love 💕