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The Parent & Teen Toolbox Podcast


EP 00 – About The Parent Toolbox Podcast

This podcast is for those of us who are parenting teenagers.

Cai Graham’s straight-talking insights and tools & techniques are designed to equip parents (and teenagers) with the tools for navigating adolescence.

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EP 30 – Sonja Montiel : Schooling -v- Learning – Rebuilding Our Expectations

In this episode we are talking about some of the difficulties our children are experiencing whilst transitioning back to school/university after a prolonged period away from education due to the Coronavirus.

We talk about how we can help our children to redefine what education means to them – and rebuilding expectations; because things are changing so rapidly at the minute.

EP 29 – Kim Muench : Parenting with Intention and Guidance

In this episode Kim and I explore the importance of hearing that inner voice and sometimes, relinquishing control. As parents, it’s scary to drop the reins – but by allowing our children to lead the way in their own lives, we set ourselves up for more connection and less confrontation.

“Our children come through us, not for us, but for the lessons they reflect to us, during their journey, in an effort to grow us up along the way.”

EP 28 – Simon Benn : Mastering Imperfection, Perfectly

In this episode, I am speaking with Simon Benn: The Children’s Happiness Expert. Simon helps Parents to Inspire Their Children to be Confident, Resilient & Happy Through Fun!

“I empower parents to inspire their children to be confident, resilient & happy with a fun process that’s already helped 1,600 8 to 11-year-olds.”

EP 27 – Aparna Venkataraman – Sensory Self Care for Parents and Teens

In the episode, I talk with Aparna Venkataraman about how sensory self-care can really help us get in touch with our emotions – and she offers suggestions on how to deal with that.

 Aparna explains the effectiveness of breathwork and meditation in the simplest of terms – so that even the beginner will leave this episode with calming techniques that will help parents reconnect with themselves and their families.

EP 26 – Starting University/College and the Empty Nest

This is a solo episode by me.

If your child is off to University / College / Leaving Home … then I want you to stop for a minute. Pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself. You are about to launch your child as a fully-fledged young adult into the big wide world.

THIS is what you have been leading up to.

EP 25 – 10 Tips for Coping with Back to School Anxieties

This is a solo episode by me.

I am having many parents contact me about coping with back to school anxieties. Our kids are returning to school following 5 months of social distancing and homeschooling. It is an uncertain time for many families; and many of our children are struggling.

I offer 10 Tips for Parents – to better deal with the Transition of Returning Back to School.

EP 24 – Claire Cetti – From Conflict to Connection in 5 Easy Steps

If you are a parent of a TEEN or TWEEN – then you will be no stranger to arguments in the home – I’m afraid to say that it’s a rite of passage!

But my guest on this episode, Parent Coach Claire Cetti, has developed a 5 step process that helps parents to move from Conflict & Anger to Calm & Connection within the family.

EP 23 – Becca Cornford : Promoting Wellbeing at Home & at School

In this episode, I talk with Becca Cornford about just that. Her family was hit by a ‘curve-ball’, not once but THREE times. Here she discusses how she and her family found the time to thrive and properly connect.

And through all this, she started a business; which helped both her and her family to find some levity in an already serious situation.

EP 22 – Piers Day – Building Better Relationships

We all know the importance of talking more with our kids – and how getting them to open up can not only help their mental health – but also start building stronger relationships within the family.

This episode is jam-packed with practical tools to help parents open up conversations with even the most reluctant teenager.

EP 21 – Natalie Syrmopolous – Adapting to the New Parenting Paradigm

Our childhood experiences stem from the old Parenting Paradigm – that one of “Children should be seen and not heard.” Much has shifted since then.

Natalie says “Kids’ temperaments are more robust now and this often makes parents quite uncomfortable.”

Listen to this episode where we discuss Natalie’s 5 Step Process to More Evolved Parenting “

EP 20 – Dear Struggling Teenager

In the previous episode, I wrote a letter to “A Struggling Parent” – so, it’s only fair I write a letter to “A Struggling Teenager.”

If you are parent listing to this – invite you to share this episode with your child. It might help them understand what’s going on in their heads.

EP 19 – Letter to a Struggling Parent

They do say :

“You are only as happy as your saddest child”. When your child is struggling, as their parent, it can occupy your every waking thought.

How can you share these feelings with anyone else?

Speaking your fears and worries out loud would be admitting that you.

Ep 18 – Surviving the School Holidays

In this episode, I give you ideas on how to support your child develop their kitchen skills; how to look after themselves, and the importance of managing their own finances for example.

Ep 17 – Is Your Child Under Achieving

In this episode, I discuss the difference between Under-Achieving and Not Performing. I explain why, more often than not – your child’s lack of interest in their studies and schoolwork is more a result of Fear rather than Laziness.

EP 16 – Why Your Teenager Needs Boundaries

In this episode, I discuss the importance of sticking to your guns and having healthy boundaries for your child to adhere to. Boundaries are often be greeted by teenagers with repeated objections – but our children do indeed thrive when there are clearly defined parameters to live by (just like motorists adhering to the Highway Code) – without specific rules, family life would be chaotic.

EP 15 – The Importance of Sleep

In this episode, I talk about the importance of sleep. How teenagers have a different sleep cycle than parents and why it’s important for us to adjust to this.

EP 14 – How to Create a Brighter Future

In this episode, I talk about the importance of taking responsibility and planning your own future. It might feel as though the future looks dreary – but only if you let it!

EP 13 – How to Talk to your Child about Racism

There is so much unrest at the moment following the death of George Floyd – a black man who died from asphyxiation whilst in police custody because a white police officer knelt on his neck for 9 minutes.

EP 12 – How to Communicate with an Uncommunicative Teen

In this episode, I talk about how to communicate with a teenager who doesn’t really want to talk to you.
When teenagers are in the home – communication suddenly takes on a different form!

EP 11 – Your Teen Knows Best

In this episode I explain why it’s important to stop Managing your Teenager and start Mentoring them.
Teenagers’ brains are under construction – and with this comes chaos and overwhelm.

EP 10 – 5 Tips to Beat Negative Thinking

In this episode, I give you 5 techniques that will help you to start to think more positively.

This current pandemic has created some very worrying times for many of us.

EP 09 – 12 Tips to Combat Sibling Rivalry

In this episode, I am giving you some pointers on how to Combat Sibling Rivalry.
You’ll never be able to stop the quarrels and the arguments between the kids – and nor should you. Sibling Rivalry is a natural way for your child to learn what is acceptable behavior (and what’s not) – and how best to connect with people.

EP 08 – Managing Your Anxiety Levels

We find ourselves in strange times at the minute. Parenting is very different.

EP 07 – Finding a Work-Life Balance

In this episode, I am providing pointers for those parents who are needing to work from home.

EP 06 – The 10 Golden Rules of Parenting ( Part 2 )

In this episode, I am going back to basics.

I am reminding you of the importance of self-care whilst parenting through The Coronavirus.

EP 05 – The 10 Golden Rules of Parenting ( Part 1 )

In this episode, I am going back to basics.

I am reminding you of the importance of self-care whilst parenting through The Coronavirus.

EP 04 – Looking After You

This episode is reminding you of the importance of self care whilst parenting through The Coronavirus.

EP 03 – Supporting an Elderly Relative

This episode is for those of us who are Supporting Elderly Relatives during The Coronavirus. 

EP 02 – How to Talk to Your Child About the Coronavirus

This episode is for those of us who are ‘stuck’ at home with the kids. Parenting is very different at the moment.

EP 01 – Living under the Same Roof as your Teenager

We find ourselves in strange times at the minute. Parenting is very different.

Globally, many countries are in lockdown, in a bid to ‘Beat The Coronavirus’.

I have decided to start this podcast with a COVID-19 Series where I support parents throughout this time. This episode helps you if you are raising teenagers.